{"id":8388,"date":"2020-02-04T14:10:00","date_gmt":"2020-02-04T05:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bluebook.mylifehouse.com\/chapter-6-engagement\/"},"modified":"2022-09-07T12:35:53","modified_gmt":"2022-09-07T03:35:53","slug":"chapter-6-engagement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bluebook.mylifehouse.com\/fa\/chapter-6-engagement\/","title":{"rendered":"Chapter 6: Engagement"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is when the couple publicly declares their intention to get married. They have come to the mutual decision that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Prior to this public declaration, they obtained the blessing of their parents, and their friends agree that they are great for each other. Once the guy presents the girl with an engagement ring, the happy couple then set about planning the wedding day.<\/p>\n

The process of merging two very different people together and their families – with all the background and culture – can prove very challenging, but not unusual.<\/p>\n

Your Questions<\/h2>\n

Question 1<\/h5>\n

Now that we are engaged, can we relax our physical boundaries?<\/p>\n

Answer 1<\/h5>\n

No! But this is a good time to revise your physical boundaries. Most couples during this phase should be tightening their boundaries rather than relaxing them. Remember, do whatever it takes to keep pure. There are couples who have broken their engagement at the last minute, but because they kept pure until the end they were able to go their separate ways with integrity. Having honored each other and God, they were able to save themselves sexually for that special someone they would call husband\/wife.<\/p>\n

Question 2<\/h5>\n

If we went too far (physically) at any point during our relationship, but later discover that either one or both don\u2019t love each other, do we have to get married?<\/p>\n

Answer 2<\/h5>\n

No! You\u2019ve heard the saying \u201ctwo wrongs don\u2019t make a right\u201d. That\u2019s really true in this situation.It means you can\u2019t fix the situation by getting married. The person that you marry deserves someone
\nthat loves them completely, and you deserve someone who loves you completely. It\u2019s not enough for only one person in the relationship to do all the loving, and sex should NOT be used to manipulate a relationship. So if you have done the wrong thing, even resulting in pregnancy, come clean and confess. You may NOT need to marry the guy\/girl in this case but whether you do or not, you will definitely need:<\/p>\n

Repentance, Forgiveness, Healing, and Cleansing.<\/p>\n

Without these you could be taking the pain of a moral failure into the next relationship. While God\u2019s grace is not a license to do the wrong thing, it is the key to a new beginning.<\/p>\n