{"id":15167,"date":"2020-02-04T11:10:54","date_gmt":"2020-02-04T02:10:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bluebook.mylifehouse.com\/chapter-3-mutual-attraction\/"},"modified":"2020-02-04T11:10:54","modified_gmt":"2020-02-04T02:10:54","slug":"chapter-3-mutual-attraction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bluebook.mylifehouse.com\/ta\/chapter-3-mutual-attraction\/","title":{"rendered":"Chapter 3: Mutual Attraction"},"content":{"rendered":"

In this phase you have an established friendship but you suspect there is a mutual attraction. This person just stands out from the crowd and you feel drawn to them. This phase continues to involve group gatherings, which will allow you to see how he\/she gets on with other people You could ask questions about: background, interests, vision, likes, and dislikes. This will give you an overall more informed impression of who he\/she is.<\/span>
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Your Questions<\/h2>\n

Question 1<\/h5>\n

How can I gauge if the \u201cattraction\u201d is mutual?<\/p>\n

Answer 1<\/h5>\n

When you\u2019re in a group, you naturally find yourselves talking to each other, discovering common interests, shared likes and dislikes. Also, your interaction on social media is mutual, i.e. they take the time to reply to you, and generally speaking is not a one-word answer.<\/p>\n

Question 2<\/h5>\n

Can I be attracted to more than one person?<\/p>\n

Answer 2<\/h5>\n

Yes, it\u2019s possible to be attracted to more than one person. But I assume that the point is to find the person you\u2019re most attracted to<\/strong>. In most cases, we can identify who that is when we have that overwhelming desire to be with him\/her, and the attraction is mutual. Mutual attraction is when you spark on several levels such as; physical appearance, personality traits, common interests, shared goals or vision, etc. Sparking on several levels is what makes someone stand out from the crowd, but mutual attraction is the green light that takes us to the next phase.<\/span><\/p>\n

Question 3<\/h5>\n

What if a significant person in my life, for example a Connect Group leader tells me that either I or the other person is not ready for a relationship right now?<\/p>\n

Answer 3<\/h5>\n

This is not your Connect Group leaders decision to make. But, the most common reason a Connect Group leader might suggest you wait, is that either you or the other person is a new believer. I think you would agree, that it\u2019s good for you and your new friend to fall in love with Jesus first. Faith provides a strong foundation for all our relationships. However, at the end of the day, we\u2019re all free to make our own decisions.<\/p>\n

Question 4<\/h5>\n

Who should I pursue?<\/p>\n

Answer 4<\/h5>\n

A good starting place would be someone you share a mutual attraction and some common values with.<\/p>\n

The Bible has some good advice for us:<\/p>\n